My grandpa did indeed pass away later that beautiful day, holding his daughters’ hands and in peace. I wasn’t there, but I’m told it was peaceful and as good as these things can be. The issues didn’t begin until people started trying to mess with the way he left things. My grandpa was the type of man who would sooner give you a dollar than to let you think you’d swindled him out of it or outsmarted him for it… he wanted things a certain way, and that’s the way he wanted them. He was no different with his money and his wills and his funeral arrangements and everything surrounding his impending death. He had some amount of money that he wanted my mom to have, and some amount that he wanted my aunt to have, and some that was to be split amongst the other siblings upon his passing. I’m not privvy to all the details, but I do know that he gave my mom and aunt (the two who were there to hold his hand in his final moments) their share before he passed. In fact, he said he was stubborn enough to not die until he was sure that they had what he wanted them to have. He wanted to be sure no one was going to take their share away, nor swindle him out of his money once he was gone and couldn’t speak for himself any more.
He also made all his funeral arrangements years and years ago. The man was nothing if not explicit in what was to happen to his earthly body, and it was paid for and settled long before this hospitalization. Now it would seem that his second wife (who he’s been divorced from for most of my life) is contesting his will and is making other arrangements via her children (who are also his children, but I do not know these people – they haven’t been a part of our lives). My mom and aunt are (understandably) upset, and my poor grandpa is in limbo until the courts open tomorrow so that a judge can determine what should become of his body. Does he get the funeral and interment that he wanted, or does he get what some portion of his children want? He has nine children all told, two from this second marriage, and those are the only two who are contesting things.
I am so upset over this, more than his passing. His death was expected, we all knew it was only a matter of time. In fact, it’s comforting to think of him in peace and not hurting any more and not being bound to this earth and a broken body (I know what that feels like, and it’s not good). But to think that anyone has the right, after I’m gone, to do with my body as they please and not as I clearly stated that I wanted? Is so upsetting to me. If my grandpa were *in* a grave, he’d be turning over in it. I suppose he’s turning over in … whatever storage he’s in at the moment, and I hope he’ll go haunt whoever messed with his wishes. Hopefully this will be settled tomorrow, and it sucks that it was the weekend and had to wait for court to open up. 😦