I see on my facebook feed the sad, pitiful pictures of some poor friends who are stuck in places like Iowa, and their messages in the SNOW this morning. I feel for all of you people living somewhere that spring is refusing to visit this year. I would be an incredibly sad panda if I had to wait into May and beyond for spring, sunshine, flowers, renewal, rebirth, fresh starts… My sympathies to those of you stuck in winter’s grasp. However, I have been here fighting this year’s version of the ant and spider invasion, so perhaps a little snowfall would be a welcome distraction. Maybe it could warm up enough to lure them out of hiding and then BAM! insta-freeze and kill them all off. Except it seems that the cold days are the ones where the wolf spiders invade the worst; I suspect they’re trying to avoid just such a fate. I had a night recently when it was cold and rainy outside, and I fought FIVE spiders (two of which were the dreaded monstrous, huge, terror-inducing wolf spiders) in a span of about thirty minutes. At 4 a.m. And did not sleep the rest of the night. Or the following night. I’m still recovering, actually. I’m lucky my heart survived the ordeal.
I’ve been keeping myself stupid busy and off the internet a lot, and although it has been good in some ways it’s also not-so-great for me in others. The ‘net is my primary means of social interaction these days; I don’t have many “IRL” friends that I just hang out with. My hanging out is done virtually, via monitors and keyboards, and so if I spend too long disconnected from the screen, I feel shut off from the world and socially isolated. In fact, the social networking is one of the things I love most about the internet; I can connect with people all around the world, and there’s always someone awake to talk to and something interesting to read. I don’t know how we survived so many years without it! Thank you, Al Gore, for inventing the internet!
But in all this disconnectedness, I’ve been running myself ragged and if it weren’t so beautiful outside I’d crawl into bed and stay there for a month or so. My boys, all three, had state-mandated testing last week and their virtual school had it arranged in such a way that my entire week was consumed and NOT FUN. One had to be there the first two days (at 9 a.m., and it’s a 30 min. drive to get there), one had to be there the second two days (also at 9 a.m.) and the third had to be there on the last day but only for an hour. I tried to have their days combined, but was told that the State of Ohio does not allow for seventh graders to test on the same day as third graders and so I had to go on ALL the days. Now, given that it’s a thirty minute drive one-way, and I drive a ’95 Jeep Cherokee, you can imagine what this did to my budget. Does anyone care? No. No, they do not. I spent in the neighborhood of $75 for the week, which is more than 10% of my monthly income, for the record. I sent an email to the principal of the school asking her to please consider families like ours, on a fixed income and with multiple children who need to be tested, so that hopefully at least in future years someone can come up with some solution that does not create a financial hardship for the families in question. We survived, with the help of CoinStar, and I’ve never been so happy to see payday.
At the end of this insane week came Prom for my daughter and all that entails. We spent most of the day together Saturday getting ready; I took her to town to have her hair done and went to her dad’s house and hung out while the boys played and I “helped” her get ready. Which mostly consisted of me sitting there watching her and telling her over and over how beautiful she is and how lovely and how proud I am of her for all that she is and does. Her date was due around 3, and by 3:30 he still hadn’t shown; calls and texts to him from her went unanswered, and she started to panic. I saw the tears welling up in her eyes, and I was seriously ready to go hurt that boy. I called his mom, got voice mail, left a message that we were worried and hoped everything was okay, and she received a call back from him in about three seconds flat. He said he’d gone with his grandma to get a dog (wtf?) and had forgotten his phone and the car broke down and blah blah blah he’s on his way and will be there in an hour.
We spent the hour taking pictures and being silly and trying to get her mind off the fact that she was all dressed up sitting around waiting for him. He finally showed, and was then in a huge hurry because they were running late, but I did get some awesome pictures of the two of them. And I made it to their Grand March and got some video and pictures there, and she was so gorgeous and awesome and wonderful and grown up.
Well, yesterday I received a text from her that said he had been ratted out, and the reason he was MIA on Saturday was because he was with another girl. Now I’m back to really wanting to hurt the boy. This is the same boy that she’s been with since middle school; I have on my wall in front of me a picture from their first Homecoming, 2008. She is understandably crushed, and she found out just before she went to take her final in history, so she says she didn’t do nearly as well on that test as she’d hoped. 😦
These, I swear, are the moments that break me as a parent. Time and time again. I can still fix my 6 year old’s boo-boos, for the most part. He falls and gets a scrape and I put a band-aid on it and kiss it and he’s off and running again. I can’t fix this. I can only listen, and remind her that he’s the jerk and it’s not her. I can’t stand to see her hurting though, and just want to take all the ouchies away. Not possible, I know, and she’ll have to find her own way, but I’d gladly take it on for her if I could.
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